In this edition ... Are You a Weaver?... Becoming Better by Finding New Things to Love ... Help Them See What You're Saying ...
Here is your weekly installment of Tuesday Traction Points - Key things I'm seeing and experiencing that give me, and the entrepreneurs I work with, Traction!
Are You a Weaver? Or Is Hyper-Individualism Holding You Back?
David Brooks a political and cultural commentator and New York Times op-ed columnist, recently gave a speech entitled "Finding the Road to Character." also the title of his recent book. He introduces the concept of what it means to be a "weaver". Here's an excerpt to whet your appetite ...
"There is one skill at the center of any healthy family, company, classroom, community, university, or nation: the ability to see someone else deeply, to know another person profoundly, to make them feel heard and understood."
"What is this skill? How do you get good at it? It is not a detached intellectual skill; it is an emotional form of knowing. ... Saint Augustine, said that knowledge is a form of love. Love is a focus of attention. Love is a motivational state to learn more about another. Love is a drive to move in harmony with another."
"I have tried to study people who are really good at seeing you and knowing you and making you feel known. I have an interaction at the Aspen Institute called Weave: The Social Fabric Project. We ... meet people who are great at building communities or relationships. We call them weavers. They are geniuses at making you feel heard and understood—that is what they do."
See article or watch the speech to learn 4 things weavers do to create amazing communities and see others more deeply! And learn the things we've created in our culture of hyper-individualism and meritocracy that can keep us from being better weavers.
I also really recommend reading The Relationalist Manifesto on the Aspen Institute website.
Speech text & video (7-minute highlights)
Quote I'm Pondering
“We don’t become better because we acquire new information. We become better because we acquire better loves. We don’t become what we know. Education is a process of love formation. When you go to a school, it should offer you new things to love.”
Help Them See What You're Saying
Written by Sue Hawkes on February 10, 2020
Vision. I went to the eye doctor and for the first time, I couldn’t read anything below the top line. Really?!! And how many other reminders do I need that I’m aging?
It occurred to me while I was ruminating in my newly identified, near-sighted blur, that this is what it’s like for our people when they can’t “see” what we’re saying.
The letters are there, but they’re fuzzy. The goals are there, but they’re fuzzy—our employees don’t see them as clearly as we do—they can’t, unless we tell them, and often.
Read the rest of the story (2 minutes).