Three Tips to Help You Powerfully Connect
Holiday time means more opportunities to be with your team in festive, relaxed atmosphere. Lunch, Dinner, or after hours in the office … No matter your role in the company, your holiday party is an opportunity to build relationships. How can you be sure to connect in meaningful ways?
Here are three tips:
1. Express Appreciation
Here, at the end of a year, and the beginning of a new decade, remember to tell the people you work with how much you appreciate what they do and how they do it. Be specific. Tell them what you’ve experienced that makes them a joy to work with.
At one company I worked for, spouses or significant others were invited to the holiday party. It was really meaningful to me when the CEO started a conversation with my wife and me and stated how important my work had been for the company that year. In using specific examples, it didn’t feel like the same line he might be telling everyone else. It was genuine and personal. Plus it felt good to have my work recognized in a personal way to my wife.
You can do this. Tell your team and your leaders the impact their work has had on you. Have you been inspired by how they show up? Did they do something special on a project or with an important client? When the right people are in the right seats in your company, it will be easy to see great contributions. Tell them about it.
2. Be Open
You work hard to create a relaxed atmosphere at the office holiday party. Take the opportunity to talk about something besides work. Open up about places you’ve traveled, people you’ve met, and things you’ve done or seen. Sharing relatable experiences reveals your passions and interests and, well… makes you more relate-able.
I remember at another holiday party the CEO relating a mishap with his garbage can in the driveway that resulted in his shirt and trousers getting badly stained, just moments before he planned to leave for an important investor meeting. Hearing about someone else’s dumb move or challenging situation helps us relate because we all do dumb things and get into challenging situations.
Vulnerability is the birthplace of creativity. Create deeper relationships with your team by being open.
3. Ask About the Future
Remember, you’re at a relaxed event with co-workers, but not talking too much about work. It’s great to make reference to the exciting things coming up for the business in the coming year, but in this setting, you should mostly ask about personal interests and pursuits. Plans for upcoming travel, passions or hobbies being pursued, books they are reading or planning to read.
I had a leader who knew I was into bicycle riding. At a holiday party he asked me if I was preparing for any upcoming rides or events in the spring. And then for several months after the holiday party asked me how my training was going. Talking about the future with someone is a very creative act. In several conversations my leader became an encouraging accountability partner in the creation of something I was excited about. What are you encouraging your work associates to create?
Future-based language changes the way things occur to people. Change the way your relationship occurs to your work associates by understanding their plans or goals. Then be genuinely supportive in helping your teammate achieve their goals and objectives.
At your office holiday party,
remember to express genuine appreciation, be open, and engage in the future dreams and aspirations of your team. When you do, it will be the best and most memorable holiday party ever for you and for the people you visit with.
What are the things you remember most from your holiday parties? Add your comments below …
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